The Best Piece of Advice from One Mom to Another
I remember the day I brought my first baby home from the hospital. It was a birth that nearly killed him, but he survived and we got to bring him home.
My mom was waiting there to help me. As the week wore on and I started to physically feel better I asked my mom a question. "Mom, what is the one piece of parenting advice you can give me?"
She was holding the “Dr. Mom” book (great book, like a Dr. Spock book) and said it is in the book. I thought she meant the book she was holding; as my mom is never without a book in her hands. She put that book down went to the table and picked up my scriptures and turned to Alma 37:36-37.
"Yea, and cry unto God for all thy support; yea, let all thy doings be unto the Lord, and whithersoever thou goest let it be in the Lord..."
"Counsel with the Lord in all they doings, and he will direct thee for good; yea, when thou liest down at night lie down unto the Lord, that he may watch over you in your sleep; and when thou risest in the morning let thy heart be full of thanks unto God; and if ye do these things, ye shall be lifted up at the last day."
"Counsel with the Lord..." She went on to tell me that it didn't matter how many "doctors" (medical or other) you go to, you are the child's parent and have been given special gifts to know how to best help that child. I honestly believe the best parenting help is found on our knees - and sometimes as we are holding an errant child on our lap.
The Lord may direct us to books, doctors, lecturers, friends, family or others to solve our problems, and then again, He may let us figure it out on our own. Many times I have gone to Him with specific problems and had to wait for my timetable to meet His and receive the answer I needed. We also have to remember the answer given may not be to our liking.
Of course, I have a special sweet testimony of the power of prayer. I haven't moved mountains (no need yet), but I have prayed for a car without a starter to get home; to find that soccer shirt just before we head out the door; that my baby's fever would break long enough to make it home to see a doctor (we were 20 hours away from home) and more importantly prayed to solve little parenting problems.
Sometimes He has directed me to someone else for help and sometimes He tells me in the "quiet" moments how to help my boys with their problems. Remember all we have to do is, "Ask, and it shall be given unto you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you." (3 Nephi 14:7) And in James 1:5, "If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God..." It worked for Joseph Smith, why not me?
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